Pillars are Just Crutches

There is a good article on small group myths that I think hits the nail on the head on why small groups don’t really work.  At the beginning however he gives some reasons why small groups in North America are easier said than done:

1. We have few role models, at least in our own culture.

2. The literature on the subject has promoted the idea without offering practical methods.

3. The American concept of home privacy causes such ministries to develop more slowly here than in some countries.

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I found ‘The Wounded Healer’ particularly insightful.  It took me longer than I expected to get through as the pages are weighed down with content heavy enough to support a book 3 times its size.  One thing is for sure, Henri J. M. Nouwen did not mince words!

At the end of his book he speaks of the loneliness of a minister, he says:

But the more I think about loneliness, the more I think that the wound of loneliness is like the Grand Canyon-a deep incision in the surface of our existence which has become an inexhaustible source of beauty and self-understanding.

Later he continues,

We get an idea of the kind of help a minister may offer.  A minister is not  doctor whose primary task is to take away pain.  Rather, he deepens the pain to a level where it can be shared.  When someone comes with his loneliness to the minister, he can only expect that his loneliness will be understood and felt, so that he no longer has to run away from it but can accept it as an expression of his basic human condition.

I’m in a predicament.

Even though I’ve blogged for several years on different sites here and there, I actually don’t have any friends who blog regularly.  Some of my friends blog intermittently, some think it’s geeky, some probably don’t know what a blog is.

It’s a predicament because I like blogging as a team.  I had tried it before (with a friend who rarely blogs) and when it was active and we were bouncing ideas and concepts off each other through blogging it created an interesting scenario.

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There hasn’t been such a bizarre, heart-wrenching and disappointing fall within Christendom quite like Mike Guglielmucci’s in recent memory.  We’ve seen the standard falls, the crooked money deals and the hidden mistresses, but never something like this.  There’s this feeling that innocence was lost.

The recent Todd Bentley case has served as a good reference point, because people were disappointed by it but most didn’t seem hurt by it.  It’s different this time, it’s personal.  In fact, I would say to a lot of people who didn’t know Mike would consider the offense deeply personal.  People worried, prayed, and supported someone that they did not know only to find out that it was a con.

I’ve read some blogs in which the individual expresses their departure from the faith.  I’ve read through the whole range of emotions: angry, hurt, disappointed, cynical, happy … and even more.

There is no proper emotional response.  How you feel is how you feel.  It’s alright to be angry or hurt.  It’s alright to let a little bit of that naive Christian inside of you go and being a little more skeptical next time around.

Some would say that this just goes to prove what many people already know: Christianity is a scam.  This really doesn’t prove anything however.  Even if every Christian is a scam artist this saying is still not true.  Christianity is based on Jesus Christ.  His teachings, His Death, His Resurrection.  Our actions (My actions – thank God) do not effect it’s (actual) validity.  But it still effects people’s perception of it.

What can we do?

Pray.  For him, for the people who were hurt the most, for those who now think Christianity is a scam, for good to come from it.

Forgive.  This is a process.  It’s a hard, deliberate and continuous act but the alternative, bitterness, will literally make your Christian faith useless.

Talk.  Talk about it.  Talk to people who are on the fence about Christianity, talk to those hurting, just talk about it.

How can we avoid this?

Truthfully, we can’t.  My only recommendation would be to stop putting leaders on pedistals and thinking too highly of them, they are fallen and hurting just like you, just like me.

For those wondering why someone would do something like this … I think this may have some answers

Here’s an interesting piece from Tullian Tchividjian on spirituality.  It’s interesting because being raised in a Pentecostal background has given me quite a different view on the subject.  So I hope this gives more people a new fresh perspective!!.  Enjoy.

Reformed people usually get charged with being doctrinal purists who are spiritually dry (hence the phrase “frozen chosen”). This charge depends, though, on one’s defintion of true spirituality. In the “Final Thoughts” column of the May/June edition of Modern Reformation magazine, Michael Horton describes Reformed spirituality by emphasizing that true spirituality is grounded first in what God has accomplished outside of us, not what he performs inside of us. “When we follow the opposite direction”, writes Horton, “we’re swimming upstream–against the current of God’s gracious condescension to sinners.” He explains:

Almost everything that is advocated as “spirituality” or “spiritual disciplines” today is private and focuses on the inner life of the individual, but Christianity is wildly, unashamedly, thoroughly public and focuses on Christ’s historical work and the way that he comes to us by his Spirit–not through private revelations or subjective experiences, but through ordinary human language (preaching), water (baptism), bread and wine (Lord’s Supper). God comes to us in Jesus Christ by his Spirit outside of our reason and experience. His visitation throws us off balance, surprising us instead of simply soothing us or confirming our piety.

So when someone asks us about our spirituality or piety, we typically talk about the public ministry of preaching and sacrament as well as prayer, Bible reading, catechism, and singing Psalms and hymns at home and at church. When the Westminster divines said that “God blesses the reading but especially the preaching of the Word as a means of grace,” they were highlighting this point. From a covenantal perspective, God works from the outside in, from that which God accomplished for us and outside of us to that which he performs within us and through us, from the public to the personal, from what has happened in the past to what is happening in the present. When we follow the opposite direction, we’re swimming upstream–against the current of God’s gracious condescension to sinners.

As I’ve noted in previous blogs by a similar title, I just finished reading the surprisingly powerful, In the Name of Jesus by Henri Nouwen.  The book talks about what the author learned about leadership in his transition from Harvard to Daybreak.

The last temptation that Nouwen talks about in Jesus wilderness temptations is that of being powerful and wanting control.  Nouwen shares about how his arguments and nice words could not convince the handicapped people at Daybreak.  He had to let go of his need for control and power.  He offers good insight to why the temptation to be powerful can often be the most powerful temptation:

What makes the temptation of power so seemingly irresistible?  Maybe it is that pwer offers an easy substitute for the hard love.  It seems easier to be God than to love God, easier to control people that to love people, easier to own like than to love life.  Jesus asks, “Do you love me?”  We ask, “Can we sit at your right hand and your left hand in your Kingdom? (p. 77)

Nouwen hopes for a poor church whose leaders are willing to be led in humility.  He is not referring to weak leadership, simply leadership that allows love to overrule.  The way to do this is through theological reflection.  Nouwen says, “the task of future Christian leaders is not to make a little contribution to the solution of the pains and tribulations of their time, but to identify and announce the ways in which Jesus is leading God’s people out of slavery, through the desert to a new land of freedom” (p. 87).

I agree with Nouwen that todays Christian leaders have become more ‘pseudo-social-worker or pseudo-psychologist rather than real ministers.  Pastors have (to some degree) forgotten that it is God who calls people into ministry and therefore God who will sustain, provide and help people in ministry.  To strictly rely on counseling or social-work techniques cheapens and diminishes what God wants to do.  Ministers need to be theologically and prayerfully prepared “to manifest the divine event of God’s saving work in the midst of the many seemingly random events of their time” (p.88).

I just finished a rather powerful book called, In the Name of Jesus by Henri Nouwen.  He shares his insights on leadership that he gained through his move from being a Harvard professor to ministering to mentally handicapped people in Ontario, Canada.  I previously wrote on his section about relevance and now I’ll continue with a look at the next section about popularity.

The second temptation that Nouwen talks about is the temptation to be popular or spectacular.  He talks about how being at Daybreak stripped him of his individuality.  He used to do things alone and could go on his own route, but when he made his transition there was always someone there with him or wondering where he was.  Nouwen comments that we have this feeling that we have to do things solo and that we need to have recognition for the things that we have done.  However, fhis is just the temptation to be popular

.As a remedy to this Nouwen switches tracks to talk about Jesus send his disciples out, not alone, but in pairs.  This works to keep people accountable, as Nouwen notes, “I have found over and over again how hard it is to be truly faithful to Jesus when I am alone” (p.58).  The partner is a vital part of ministry for guidance, accountability and encouragement.

Just earlier I posted about pastors who are using video so they can preach in more than one venue at a time.  I think this is a classic example of not having people in ministry that you can work with.

Nouwen also remarks that confession and forgiveness are the keys to help from falling for the popularity temptation.  I know first hand that confession and forgiveness have had a huge hand in helping curb any temptation and let me know that I will always be in need, not only of the grace and mercy of God, but also of the people around me who are an encouragement and support.

We are left with the realization that ministry cannot be about popularity and any such goal only serves to make a fall that much greater.

I just finished reading a remarkable little book by Henri J. M. Nouwen who was a Catholic priest who taught at Harvard and ended up being a Chaplin at Daybreak for the mentally handicapped and their helpers.  The book is entitled, ‘In the Name of Jesus’.  The book is about Christian leadership, but it’s unlike anyother Christian leadership book I have ever read.

In his introduction he sets the stage of how he arrived at Daybreak from Harvard and he shares how that transition had given him a new perspective on Christian leadership.  In doing so he uses the tempation of Jesus as his guide.  The first temptation being turning the stone to bread.

This is the temptation to be relevant, and what a temptation, Jesus was hungry, he hadn’t eaten in weeks!  Some bread would have hit the spot!  Mr. Nouwen shares that Jesus came into the world, and when He was tempted with what He could do (feed himself with food that he desperately needed) He responded with what he should do, feed himself with God’s word.

This has big applications within the church today!  Many churches have tried to be relevant and reach out to the lowest common denominator, in doing so they have taken away the gospel message so as not to offend people.  They are being completely relevant to the world and feeding their congregations self-help messages that have been stripped of the Word of God.  They are no longer preaching sermon, they are giving seminars.  As a result, souls are lost.

Instead of attempting to be relevant Nouwen asks the question, “Am I in love with Jesus?”  The answer to this question is more important than what people may think of me or whether I get the result I expect or want.  It will also determine how close I am to Him and what my spiritual life is like.  He encourages us to seek God through contemplative prayer, simply dwelling in the presence of God.

To the churches great demise, prayer has become synonymous with ‘doing nothing’.  Churches are more focused on programs than spiritual disciplines and they have created a culture where busyness, noise, and attendance is often linked to success.  Whereas often the opposite is need, stillness, silence and solitude.

Instead of seeking relevance we should be prayerfully seeking God.